Fertility In Mind – FAQ’s



Fertility In Mind –  FAQ’s

Here are some questions to ponder to help you to discover how much you know about fertility and conceiving!


1.      When is the best time to conceive?

Having sex on the actual day of ovulation is not always the best time to conceive.  It seems that women who have sex 2 days before ovulation can double the chances of conception depending on other factors too.  Adopting the fertility in mind approach and having sex 4 days before ovulation is key to success.

2.      How should you prepare for pregnancy?

Stop contraception.  Have a GP check-up especially if you have any medical condition.  Begin prenatal vitamin – folic acid.  Have sex 2 – 3 times a week.  Both partners should consider eating healthily – get enough exercise, stop smoking and drinking.  This is addressed in my Fertility In Mind Programme.

3.      How does sleep affect fertility?

Having 8 – 9 hours of sleep each night actually boosts natural fertility.  While you are sleeping your body is producing the hormones Leptin, Progesterone, Oestrogen, Follicle Stimulating Hormone FSH and Luteinising Hormone LH, which regulate the menstrual cycle.  When sleep is disrupted or you are not having enough of it hormone levels are unbalanced.  Cortisol levels rise with chronic stress.  This alters sleep patterns and perpetuates the pattern of poor sleep.  My Fertility In Mind programme sets out to establish good sleep patterns to help balance hormones.

For good sleep:

.  Keep your bedroom for sleep and sex only.

.  Avoid caffeine and alcohol for six hours before going to sleep.

.  Take your exercise in the morning.

.  Have a comfortable bed and linen.  Keep a consistent room temperature and ventilation.

.  Keep a regular bed time schedule and routine.

4.      What is the best sexual position for conception?

In fact, the plain old missionary position has top ranking to allow the deepest penetration.  Delivering sperm closest to the cervix is what counts.  Some will find rear entry positions good – all a matter of personal preference and experimentation.  Fashions and trends come and go but with good sex you are still keeping fertility in mind.  Much of the post-coital leakage that occurs is semen draining out of the vagina – the best swimmers will already be nearing the finishing line.

5.      Can you get pregnant without orgasm?

Yes, you can.  It is not necessary for a woman to climax in order to conceive.   However, orgasm can be a wonderful part of a happy relationship and with fertility in mind you can learn how to achieve great orgasms.  Orgasmic contractions may help sperm move more quickly towards the Fallopian tubes, but it is not essential to conception.For men, some sperm can be released in the pre-ejaculate fluids emitted so it is even possible for these sperm to reach and fertilize an egg without penetration or ejaculation.

6.      Is cough medicine good for boasting fertility?

This urban myth relies on the fact that cough medicine loosens chest mucus.  It doesn’t work with cervical mucus.  Fertile cervical mucus has a different chemistry to the kinds of mucus that are produced at different stages of the menstrual cycle.  Fertile mucus just happens to resemble egg white.

7.      What is the fertile window?

The fertile window is a 6-day time frame of the days just before ovulation and the day of ovulation and is considered to be the most fertile time during which conception is most likely.  I’s important to always keep your fertility in mind not just during this window.  The fertile window is the time when most couples conceive.  Sperm are not ready immediately to fertilize an egg.  It takes about 10 hours for sperm to undergo the process of capacitation.  This prepares the sperm for penetration of the egg surface.  These matured sperm are then ready to fertilize a freshly released egg.  The egg survives for twelve hours and most women will have mucus that resembles egg white at this time.

8.      Which foods should you avoid when trying to conceive?

It’s best to have a healthy diet if you want to keep fertility in mind and give yourself the best chance of conceiving.  Avoid empty calories, high fat, sugary processed foods, such as ready-meals and takeout foods, which contain high levels of unhelpful chemicals.  You need to be strong, fit and well nourished to maintain a pregnancy and grow a healthy baby. Alcohol consumption depletes the body’s capacity to conceive and can cause fetal abnormalities.

9.      Why should you refrain from using lubricants?

If sex has become mechanical with the only goal being conception, some couples may rely on lubricants instead of the natural secretions produced during enjoyable foreplay and sex.  Remember that having good sex means you are actually keeping fertility in mind and boosting your chances of conception.  Lubricants change the acid/alkaline balance in the vagina and render the area hostile to sperm.  Regular hot sex stimulates natural, sperm-friendly secretions helping sperm to reach the conception destination.

10.  How long does it take to get pregnant?

Every couple is different.  General guidelines suggest that healthy women between the ages of 20-35 will conceive within 12-18 months of trying to conceive.  Some even conceive during the first month of trying.  Keeping your fertility in mind maximises your chances of conceiving quickly but it is advised to seek help if you have been trying to conceive for a year in this age group.

Fertility declines with increasing age so anyone trying to conceive for 6 months over the age of 35 should consult a fertility specialist.   Some really good information is available on the IVF process is available click here 

Helena Tubridy

Helena Tubridy is a Fertility Expert, Hypnotherapist, Author and former Midwife, passionate about helping couples achieve pregnancy. Her therapy can double IVF conception rates and boost natural fertility. Latest fertility information, blogs and audio downloads are on her website http://www,helenatubridy.com